At what point did we convince ourselves that if we don't “make it” from the first try then we're total failures? When did we start to think that something is wrong if the process involves re-dos, learning, trials, or ambiguity?
We don’t like to show the process. The world doesn’t reveal it, and we only see the “success” or the final outcome. The Process doesn’t bring us any awards, it doesn’t bring us any likes, it doesn’t bring us any shares. The Process is awkward and uncool. We do anything to either avoid it, speed it up, or not go through it. We’re striving to make it.
“So many of the images portrayed by the 'greats' in history, the success stories, only focus on the stage where they have 'made it'," a wise friend reminded me. “It ignores the failures, frustrations, and struggles that the person went through to 'make it', ignoring the complexity of the individual and focusing on the thing produced, rather than the growth achieved."
What would it do to us if we switched our focus from “making it” to The Process? What would happen if we began to have deep love, patience and acceptance of The Process? What if everyone stopped making it about “making it”?
Picture above: Bottom right is my final product. Starting from top left were my attempts and failures.